Potty Training Tips for the Thoughtful Parent

How to go from baby to kid without all that drama

It isn't easy being a parent, and potty training is a major contributing factor. One of the first obstacles in this difficult transition is figuring out when to initiate it. It is a roller coaster ride, to be sure, but it is one that we cannot avoid. And deciding when to start potty training is a topic of some controversy on playgrounds everywhere. Ultimately, only you can decide. There are a few signs you can watch for to help you figure it out.

There is something I want to tell you, I just don’t know how

Don't pay too much attention to who says what about when it should happen. Instead, wait for your child to give you the signal that he or she is ready. You'll know. Here are a few telling signs to watch for:

Her diaper is dry for longer periods of time, especially after napping

He is paying more attention to when, and maybe how, others go potty

She can understand and follow simple directives

He is impatient and uncomfortable with a wet, heavy diaper

She expresses an interest in toilets, her potty seat, or wearing underpants

If you pay attention, your child will let you know it is time to learn how to use the toilet. Of course, your wonderful pediatrician can help you if you have concerns that go beyond your own research.

If you don't laugh, they'll cry

Essential items for potty training can include lots of cheerful props and laundry detergent, but the most important items on your list of necessities are patience and a sense of humor. This intense transitional experience will take your relationship with your child to a new level and there is no point in rushing through it. Relax, reward, and laugh. Repeat.

We have met the enemy, and it's the toilet

From a small child's perspective, potty training can be a scary experience fraught with loud noises, oversize toilets that make things disappear, and all new cold and wet vulnerabilities. Empathy, rather than sympathy, will help you provide the structure and discipline needed for a more effective approach of gentle, loving support. Let any negative focus be on the behavior and keep positive focus on your child.

Let's get this potty started!

Any activity is more fun with props and potty training has its own retail universe of merchandise. Whatever you do to make it more appealing will help both of you deal with the challenge of toilet training. Here are just a few essentials:

His or her very own potty-chair—there are even mini-urinals for boys!

A special toilet seat to make the family throne kid friendly

Toilet latches, because drowning can happen in as little as one cup of water

A colorful step stool, a lowered mirror, and fun soaps, to make hand washing fun

Books, CDs, and Videos about potty training. My favorite is Everyone Poops by Taro Gomi

Potty training is messy but you can do it. The bottom line is to have fun and be relaxed about the whole mess.

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